What is success & how to measure it

Shanti Kate 78 Blog Spot What is success & how to measure it... Everyone will have a different answer to this question. This is my reflection which I hope you can learn from. I write about my personal relationship with the word and meaning of success and how recently I have started to reflect on what success means to me, where the meaning came from, what effect does it have on me and is it time to change my success blueprint & how? Where did my meaning of success come from? Growing up in a middle class family I learnt (unconsciously) that success is having money in the bank, lots of luxury items, a large house, a good job, going on holiday abroad, a BMW on the driveway, weekly food shopping in Waitrose, money to spend on luxuries and shopping trips in London.  It was great having all this growing up, then I left home for university and I have NEVER recreated this experience. When I reflect on this it is not because I don't have the ability to go out in the world have a great career, get the money, the house, the car and luxury lifestyle, it is because even with all this stuff in my family I was never truly happy. What effect does the meaning have on me? As I write this more ah haa moments start to click in the mind, more realisations of my incongruence, more realisations on why I continuously feel like a failure, why when friends tell me how inspiring I am or how much love they see or how great I am or when people tell me "you are so wealthy beyond the means of money" I feel perplexed & surprised at what they see & say, I automatically delete the positive feedback as they can't be right because I don't have all the results of what I unconsciously picked up to be success. The key for me and probably for most, is happiness, actually happiness is not the key, happiness is the result. Happiness for me is the way to measure success. As a child I had all the material results of what I was unconsciously lead to believe was success but I was never truly happy.  What I realise now is my unconsious conditioning has always been cropping up telling me I am a fraud, a failure, people are going to find me out and see what a fraud I am. What I realise now is that my conditioning of what success is keeps me from feeling truly at peace and happy in life. Is it time to change the blueprint & how? Yes it is most definitely time to change the blueprint!  How can blueprints/conditioning be changed? Firstly it's already shifting, the other day I took all my dreams, desires and goal lists for 2015  down off my wall, I felt like a failure, things aren't manifesting how I dreamt. I voiced my feelings to a friend that I felt like a failure and then I started to reflect & question..."why do I feel like a failure?" What is success to me?" "where did that meaning coming from?" "can I change it and how?" My emotions coming up that were not joy were a dead give away that something needs to be looked at.  Step one....Awareness of my emotions Step two....Questioning what is happening....what am I feeling......why am I feeling this....what thoughts am I believeing and how is it effecting me Step three...Now that I have become aware of this what can I do next? Finding my new ways.... At the beginning of April I went on an amazing, transformational, 10 day teacher training to learn the Ecstatic Awakening Dance Method. During these 10 days I was given a new model of the "keys to success", I believe this was actually the first point of change around what I was believing about what success is. I read the "key of success" and realised my goodness I have all these keys, I like this model it helps me to feel good. Yesterday I started to reading Esther and Jerry Hicks "The Astonishing Power of Emotions" again another new understanding of what is the result of success...the feeling of joy! How do I measure success? (the new model) Happiness, joy and when I feel good. How will I ensure my success?  By seeking new models, replacing new beliefs and using my body as a key.  Find new blueprints, ways & beleifs from others who inspire me. Look at my options; What makes me feel good in life? What else can I beleive that would support me to feel better within myself? What else can I do to feel successful, to feel good? Use my emotional system when seeking new beleifs, models, systems, dance methods....does it feel good....yes, keep it.....no, drop it! Keep dancing!!! Keep moving!!! Keep Feeling!!!

Shanti Kate 78 Transformational Coach Tansformational Dance Alternative Events UK www.shantikate78.co.uk

How To Make One Hell Of A Profit And Still Get To Heaven

Shanti Kate 78 Blog Spot Recommended Reading... Six months ago whilst being coached I was given this book by the coach, I read up to the part that is relevant for me currently financially and followed it to the letter. I don't know how but I have reduced my money owing to various lenders/friends by £2.5K, I haven't earned much extra money, my earnings are minimal but some how changing my financial mindset and systems by reading this book has changed the flow and what I am attracting. I can't recommend it enough if you struggle with money, it is more to do with your thinking and how much you value you as a person. The universe is always responding to how much you value yourself. Step by step lifetime habits can change :) Dr John Demartini (Author) - he started out as a healer who want to help, ended up attracting all the people who wanted his services for free and ended up it A LOT OF DEBT. His money situation had to get get really painful until he said enough is enough. "How To Make One Hell Of A Profit And Still Get To Heaven" Paperback – 1 Jul 2004 by Dr John Demartini (Author) https://drdemartini.com/ www.amazon.co.uk/Make-Hell-Profit-Still-Heaven/dp/1401901980

Shanti Kate 78 Transformational Coach, Alternative Events UK, Love Biodanza www.shantikate78.co.uk

The uncomfortable comfort zone...

Shanti Kate 78 Blog Spot The uncomfortable comfort  zone... After pushing myself for four days working, then waking up feeling emotional and tired I turn inwards. The questions “why am I doing what I am doing?” and “why am I pushing myself so hard to do what I am doing?” have been arising in me recently. This morning I have allowed myself to stop, to breathe, to cry, to allow, to feel and then the realisation came. I have spent much of my life in flight & fight mode, in fact I am told that at my birth I did not want to come out, fighting with life itself right from the very start! My childhood was materialistically safe, comfortable, well nurtured, however the family unit was emotional chaos with feelings of discomfort, of not being safe, of wanting to run away, with the flight mode engaged a lot of the time & if it wasn't the flight mode then it was fight mode. I am beyond blaming my past for my current life/state, more intrigued how can I re-set myself to a healthy state of well-being, take responsibility for where I am at.  This morning I realise of course, my comfort zone is discomfort. Discomfort is the familiar, the feeling of not feeling safe is the comfort zone, feeling edgy & in survival mode. I consistently recreate what I have always known even if it appears and feel uncomfortable it is comfortable. Quite the paradox! It’s a challenge to re-set patterns of a life time, the last three months have been a dance between pushing and surrendering. It’s like I am on the edge of trusting life but I can’t quite allow myself to fully trust and fall off the edge. I have got the point of having enough of; pushing, fighting, struggle, competing, rising, challenge, of “doing” alone. I feel ready for being, to; allow, surrender, flow, dance, be seen and to be part of a circle, a collective. At the moment, for me, it is a merry dance between the yang & yin, the masculine & feminine, but without really knowing the yin, the feminine, it can only be an unfolding of discovery. With grace I fall into a new way of being, of letting life live me.

Shanti Kate 78 Transformational Coach, Alternative Events UK, Love Biodanza www.shantikate78.co.uk

Own your shit, the way to happiness...

Shanti Kate 78 Blog Spot Own your shit, the way to happiness... After a 10 day residential, transformational teacher training I received some positive feedback… “I love how you own your shit” I feel to share my insights from my own personal experience and transformation over the 10 days and years of practice (and continuing practice)…. Nobody can burst your bubble of bliss but they can trigger your response system which can adjust your feeling of natural bliss and guess what, you have the power to become aware of these responses…..judgments, anger, sadness, inner conflict and general mind projections can all be changed. This is taking responsibly (owning your shit) .…the ability to respond. The mind is an amazing part of the human physiology, over the years of early development its filtration systems form and depending on different eco-factors (environment, family, society, schooling, friends) you will have a unique response system (possibly reaction system) as an adult. Everyone’s internal body mind mapping is different; the mind filters, categorises and sends information to the body creating an emotional response and thus a response or reaction. The great news is if your eco-factors could have been improved as a child and your filtration system could be better as an adult you have the choice to become aware and change it. You can choose happiness through becoming aware of your thoughts, your emotional system and your behaviour. Next time some information from the outer world rocks your inner world and you feel off centre, not in your natural state of bliss and contentment bring some awareness to the feelings you are experiencing, take a look your behaviour and examine your thoughts. Sit alone for a while, breath into your heart and ask yourself “is it true what I am thinking, how is what I am thinking making me feel, how am I behaving and do I have the choice to change?” Examine what your mind is filtering and projecting, breathe into the heart and ask “if I saw this situation from the heart how would it look & feel, how would I behave & what would I be saying”. Keep breathing and keep moving down into the heart space, know that the world can be experienced and perceived from here. The aim is to realign the body mind back to a natural state of happiness, bliss, contentment. If you are feeling off centre know that the body mind is letting you know it is time to retreat inwards to become aware and re-balance. Keep practicing coming back to the breath and heart, over time you will begin to notice that things that once triggered your system no longer do. You are slowly resetting your body mind programming (neuro-linguistic- programming, NLP) where it is needed. The breath and awareness are powerful tools for you to take responsibility for your happiness, well-being and sanity. It is up to you to use them J

Shanti Kate 78 Transformational Coach, Alternative Events UK, Love Biodanza www.shantikate78.co.uk

Super Green, Super Refreshing Smoothie...

Shanti Kate 78 Blog Super Green Smoothie Yesterday I tried this super green smoothie that I found online as part of a winter detox, personally I will use it as a healthy booster. It’s really tasty with all the flavours coming through it is very refreshing & pretty pulpy. I halved the recipe for an extra-large smoothie, I found that blending all the ingredients together except the spinach is easier, then adding the spinach to the mix and blend. Ginger-Mint Pear Smoothie Makes 3 cups / 700ml Ingredients (all organic if possible): 2 pears 1 avocado, flesh scooped out 1½ cups / 35g firmly packed baby spinach 1 cup / 250 ml water 2 tsp. minced ginger 1 ½ Tbsp. freshly-squeezed lemon juice 10-20 mint leaves (to your taste) Directions: 1. Place all ingredients except the spinach in a blender, blend until smooth, then add the spinach, again blending until smooth. Enjoy!

Shanti Kate 78 Transformational Coach, Alternative Events UK, Love Biodanza www.shantikate78.co.uk

Moving from fear to balance…

Shanti Kate 78 Blog   The last two weeks have been very calm and peaceful, prior to this although I was happy and positive fear was driving me. The fear of lack was creating panic and a lot of adrenaline to get me up working morning, noon and night was rushing through the system. I felt I was aligned and working well but having stopped for the last Biodanza training weekend I came to realise my body is exhausted from tension, stress and adrenaline. This morning my body aches and I have a headache, I feel it will take some time for the body to recover from over use of the adrenal glands, hyper tension and stress over years of allowing this to happen. I know a physical shift and a negative mental belief has shifted so I will not default to the panic and adrenal setting which is the usual case. Sometimes life or the experience of it has become truly painful until I really listen, wake up and make the changes! Transforming base metal (fear) to gold (love). Biodanza, Ars Magna. (the magnificent art 23rd– 25th Jan 2015)….. FEAR; Fear has been living my life, making the decisions. Fear of lack, fear of not being good enough, fear of time, fear of human beings, it has been running me, a stress that has run through my blood and seeped into my bones. If fear is the sting, then love is the balm. LOVE; Love is not something that can be obtained, love is something that is to be experienced, to run through the body as life, Love is Life, Life is Love. Fear is the guard, the padlock. Recognising and welcoming the fear to transform it with the surrender to love. From base metal (fear) to gold (love), it is through the dance, the group, the music, and the movement that love can begin its transformation. www.facebook.com/lovebiodanza

Shanti Kate 78 Transformational Coach, Alternative Events UK, Love Biodanza www.shantikate78.co.uk

Lifestyle and stress

Shanti Kate 78 Blog Starting to wake up and question my lifestyle after the last Biodanza training weekend, realising I live with high levels of stress in my body when I work, even when I am feeling positive a certain level of tension, fear and stress are driving me. According to Pathologist Arthur Jores (1901 -1982 Germany ) there are 2000 diseases common in humans, 1500 of which are due to lifestyle. Learning to find a balance is a challenge, but is key to feeling happy and healthy. Biodanza lowers stress levels and helps to regulate the body, dancing on a weekly basis can contribute towards raising happiness and bringing a sense of peace. Biodanza: http://shantikate78.co.uk/lovebiodanza.html Food Matters: www.foodmatters.tv/content/5-simple-ways-to-instantly-reduce-stress-in-your-life

Shanti Kate 78 Transformational Coach, Alternative Events UK, Biodanza, Inspiration www.shantikate78.co.uk